Hello my people!
This September marks nine years of marriage for us. At our wedding, his vow said, “it’s you and I,” and that is still the way we live today.
Celebrating Nine Years of Marriage
Recently, I received a message asking me to talk about relationships as part of my Spinal Cord Injury Awareness Month series. I am not a relationship expert, but I can share what I know from my own life and marriage.
The Foundation of Every Relationship
Marriage, whether or not disability is part of the story, requires intentionality. Relationships grow when two people continuously choose each other. Love deepens when you communicate, sacrifice, and remain committed to showing up for one another.
Respect, laughter, patience, and faith are at the core of any lasting relationship.
The Extra Layers of Love After SCI
When you add disability into the mix, there are extra layers to navigate. These do not make a relationship less meaningful. If anything, they invite deeper connection.
Some of the realities we have faced include:
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Accessibility – making sure the places we go are welcoming and barrier-free.
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Energy and fatigue – planning activities with physical limits in mind.
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Balancing independence with support – creating space for autonomy while leaning on each other.
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Navigating intimacy in new ways – learning, adapting, and keeping openness at the center.
These layers have not weakened our marriage. Instead, they have required more communication, more creativity, and more intentionality. They have reminded us to choose each other in deeper ways.
Faith, Patience, and Choosing Each Other
For us, faith has always been the anchor. Marriage is not just about romance but about commitment and trust in God’s plan. Patience and laughter carry us through the hard days, while respect keeps love steady.
At the end of the day, disability has not taken away from our marriage. It has only revealed the strength of our commitment.
Encouragement for Singles
For my ladies especially, do not settle just to say you have someone. Keep praying, keep discerning, and learn about yourself. Trust that the right person will see you as the answer to their prayer too.
Love after a spinal cord injury is not only possible but also beautiful. It is real, it is worth waiting for, and it is proof that relationships are about more than physical circumstances.
Key Takeaways
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Marriage requires intentionality and daily choice
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Disability adds layers like accessibility, fatigue, and intimacy, but love can grow stronger through them
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Communication and faith are essential in navigating challenges together
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Love after spinal cord injury is real, possible, and beautiful
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Do not settle — the right partner will see you as an answer to prayer
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