Happy New Months world!

How is it already May? 

I am certainly happy with how this year is going and summertime is coming near... or is it? 

I've been loving doing my makeup so much more nowadays and I just had to do this post to give a special shout-out to a product that has been keeping my makeup locked in and looking flawless! 

It has the special power of pulling my makeup together and also keeping it from looking cake-y. And more importantly, my makeup lasts longer. 

Let me know in the comments below, have you tried the urban decay setting spray? If not, what's your fave setting spray?

As most of you know by now, your girl is now a mom! My daughter is six months old and I am just in awe of all the milestones she has reached and continues to strive towards. 

With the excitement of having my girl, I was determined to exclusively breastfeed her for as long as I can - but ultimately for up to six months. By God's grace, my milk came in on time after birth and I managed to exclusively breastfeed her as I desired till she turned six months. 

Was it hard? Yes. Would I do it again? Maybe... 

Breastfeeding is a full time job and I managed to share my journey with you all on my youtube channel. 

Now, you're probably wondering why I am telling you all of this. 

Recently, I have been getting a lot of comments about my weight gain after having my baby and I honestly agree with people that I have gained some weight... duh you thought I was delusional and don't see myself in the mirror?... 

However, there is no reason whatsoever why anyone should feel bold enough to mention it to me especially in a rude manner. 

Is breastfeeding the cause for my weight gain and am I laying up reasons for why I'm now thicker than a snicker bar? Nah Bih... This isn't a story to defend my weight gain. 

I am writing this tuh-day because I would like to use my platform to address people (both online and in person), who think it's OK to tell ANYBODY anything about their weight gain or loss. 

 If you are new around here, you probably won't know that I am the wrong one to come for when what you're serving has to do with negativity. I have been through too much in life to let words affect my well-being, however, I am still going to talk about this issue because I have the platform to do so.

My first reaction to rude comments is to ignore them, block them, or once in a while reply them with the respect they lack and show them kindness. 

I was chatting about this issue with my friend IBK of 10MinuteFinancialGuide, and she brought up some valid points I just have to share with you all. 

She pointed out that while I have the mental capacity to "waka pass" and ignore rude comments regarding my weight (or my life as a wheelchair user), some people don't have that same "energy" and so I need to speak up for those people! 

I will never understand what some people gain by bringing others down or by pointing out things to others that you know might affect them negatively. 

Since you're not psychic and can't possibly tell how somebody will receive your comment, here are three key points to guide you. 

1. This is the safest option... just don't say anything. Seriously, you won't die if you don't let people know "exactly what you think about them".

2: Ask yourself: Do I mind if others see/hear that I said this? I know some people are ruthless and really don't care about their reputation, but I want to remind you that your words and actions can come back to haunt you.

3: Ask yourself: What is the damage this could cause? Will this person be OK after you tell them what is on your mind? Would your words affect their well being? Have they done everything within their power about this issue? Do you know what damage your words could cause to some people? Are you alright with knowing that somebody could commit suicide based on something you say to them?

All these being said, I am of the notion that the people who actually need this message hardly ever see it because they're too busy with their toxic self and their negativity usually consumes them, so I just want to use the remainder of this post to address anybody who might be affected by people's words or their actions. 

I know it's hard to "ignore" mean/rude/negative comments, but practice makes perfect and you can rise above whatever is being said to you that affects your mood or energy. Sometimes you will have to speak up for yourself and that is OK as long as you are not letting the negative comments consume you. 

I have generally decided to live a life that is guided by this quote from Warren Buffet. 

 This quote shapes the way I respond to situations around me. I have also come to learn to respond and not react to situations, people, and words. I shared this on my instagram page and somebody asked me what the difference between responding and reacting was. 

Well, I personally believe that the need to be defensive is what differentiates one from the other. Reacting often comes with the energy of defending oneself while responding tackles the subject at hand often in a calm and collective manner without the need to be right or feel like defending yourself/your point.

This works for me even though I'm still a work in progress. 

Generally, I wish we can just get rid of all bullies and change the minds of people who want to spew negativity everywhere... but... we all know that these people will still keep being amongst us, and so we just need to guard and protect ourselves from them. 

Share with me in the comment section below, how do you deal with negativity? 

That's it for now. 

My dress is from Curvaceous boutique  and you can get a discount if you use the code: TheDIYLady. 

Till Later, God bless. 

Hello world, 

Does anyone out there feel like a pair of falsies turn up their makeup look by 100? 

Surely I can't be the only one who loves the way fake lashes make my eyes and overall makeup application look. 

Some years ago, I discovered the Salon Perfect 615 lashes and fell in love. I bought the pack from walmart and my makeup application kicked up a notch as I perfected my lash application (thanks to hours spent watching youtube tutorials).  

Anyhoo, after I had discovered the perfect lashes - for me, I went to re-stock sometime last year in walmart and could not find them. After checking in various walmarts and going back severally, I realized that walmart might no longer be carrying the Salon Perfect 615 lashes! Maybe it will be back soon, but I couldn't wait. So, this began my search for a dupe of the lashes and thanks to amazon, I found the the Jimire High Drama lashes.


I quickly placed my order and was eager to wear them upon arrival. Let me tell you, I was not disappointed! Just look below at how they made my eyes look!


I love how wispy and flirty they look. These look a little bit longer than the salon perfect 615 did, but I am completely fine with that. I love that it has the same look the salon perfect 615 gave my eyes.

So, if you're looking for new lashes to try, or if you were surfing the web for the Salon Perfect 615 dupe, this is my current recommendation. 

So today I am very excited to share with you all that I'm now part of those who actually can boldly say that "I love my natural hair".

My natural hair journey hasn't been one I took the time to document because I just didn't have anything spectacular going on with my hair. I don't even remember when I started this journey but I am sure it's been well over 5 years. 

Throughout these years, I had the routine to wash it, condition it, and put it in corn-rows underneath the numerous wigs I wear. Seriously, I barely wore my hair out on its own because I just didn't know what to do with it and it had next to NO definition. 

Well a couple of months ago, I discovered a product that helped my natural hair curl pattern to be more defined! I should say at this point that this is not a sponsored post, but I just had to share since I have absolutely fallen in love with the Cantu curl activator cream. CLICK HERE TO BUY ON AMAZON

 I used it mainly with my curly wigs as pictured below, but one fateful day, I decided to use it on my natural hair since that's actually what is written on the bottle! 

Let me tell you guys, using this on my natural hair was a game changer! My natural curls came forth and lasted for days the first time I used this! My favorite style to wear my natural hair now is in a wash-and-go using just my Cantu Moisturizing curl activator cream. 

Pictured below, you can see that I actually wear my natural hair out in it' natural glory and I absolutely love that! A high up-do is my favorite way to wear it. 

I hope this post helps my naturalistas and curly haired people out there. Remember this product can also be used on your human hair weaves/wigs. Get your curls popping!

That's it for now,

Till later, God bless.

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Hello world!

One of the most popular question I get asked in my Instagram DM is with regards to which baby products I use for my baby girl. From her hair care to her skin care, it seems majority of the people are interested!

There's actually not much to what we do since she's just a baby, but I figured I needed to do this post to help my fellow mamas out there. 

 My baby girl is almost six months old and she has been using the same products ever since we brought her home. I managed to record her bath and hair routine on my YouTube channel so please watch that here or at the bottom of this post as it explains more of how things are done and used.

None of these items are sponsored but I'm open if the companies ever stumble on this post (not kidding). Lol

I'll do this post in sections so that it's not all over the place. First we will start with Skin care. 

Skin care

Body wash/Lotion: Shea Moisture Raw Shea Chamomile and Argan Oil Baby Head to Toe Wash  Shampoo and Healing Lotion

Face cream: Eucerin Baby Eczema Relief Body Creme

Diaper cream: Earth Mama Baby Organic Diaper Balm

Hair care

Shampoo: Aveeno Baby Gentle Wash & Shampoo with Natural Oat Extract, Tear-Free &, Lightly Scented

Hair Oil: Shea Moisture Raw Shea Butter Baby Oil Rub

Hair styling

Tiny black rubber bands.

No, these don't pull on her hair. Her hair is so slippery anyway and the band isn't done so tight that it hurts her or pulls her hair. (watch the video on youtube to see).

I personally don't like too much going on with her hair, so when she has it in tiny puffs, I don't bother with the hair accessories (maybe a clip of two here and there).

But when her hair is out in it's fro glory, i love using the head bands. 

Other notable mentions/Answers to frequently asked questions 

• She bathes once everyday at about the same time everyday.
• She wears her hair in the tiny puffs for 3-4 days at a time. Everyday is not wash day. But if her hair is out in a fro, we wash it everyday.
• She uses her diaper cream with every diaper change and we've never had any diaper rash issues so I plan to keep it that way.
• Her skin color is from God and purely the makeup of her genes (Yes I get asked this question).
• As you probably saw in the video I shared about her bath and hair routine, she doesn't really cry during bath/hair time. 
• If she starts crying, we stop to see what is going on with her and once the issue is resolved, we can resume whatever it was we were doing. 
• Sometimes we get her hair done in one go, other times, we get it done in batches and space the time out. It's ok to stop and check what is going on with your baby. They didn't sign up to be "slay queens" lol, so please don't force your babies to get their hair done. 
• We comb her hair when it's wet so that it doesn't hurt her.
• Oiling her hair really helps with breakage so she doesn't get any shedding or bald spots.
• She doesn't sleep on any specialty pillow or fabric, or wear any hair bonnets. I truly believe in letting air get to her scalp and I won't put her on any silk pillows or bed sheet because even I don't find them comfortable. Cotton and Jersey knit fabrics are what her bed sheet is made of.